Brief Bitchy Observation

[browngirl]

This isn't the entry I should be writing; I should be writing about the great fun of watching the movie Hot Fuzz, how that was enhanced by watching it with WD, and how much fun dinner was between his company, the beer-and-cheese plate, and the adorable knee-booted waitress. Hopefully I'll write about that soon.

Right now, instead, I'll write this. There are people (multiple people, none of whom I expect are reading this) who are friends of several of my friends, but who are no friends of mine. Yet, because they and I have several friends in common, I see their comments in my friends' journals, and those comments invariably irritate me, so that I must say to myself, "I will not flame this annoying person in my friend's journal." Often several times. After all, I try not to start fights in my friends' journals, that's a bad practice.

So I'm writing this down, to remind myself of same. Goodness knows, there are probably people who feel this way about me.

Comments

[mtgat]

I swear we should make this a meme and everyone ought to repost it. Because I have been sorely tempted many a time, and whereas you demonstrate wisdom here, I tend to just stew in rage.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*laugh* As you saw elsewhere, I failed to take my own advice.

I often stew in rage, too, but I try to end up with broth eventually.

[gloss]

I hate that kind of situation. *snugs*

That said, if you ever feel the need to rant/flame over a commenter in my journal, feel free to let me know.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*hugs you warmly* When I feel strongly enough, I'll say something --- you remember the brief Steph kerfuffle. But, thank you for the permission. :)

[baranduin.livejournal.com]

You're really very cute when you're bitchy :-)

Having said that ... word. Oh yeah.

[hitchhiker.livejournal.com]

she's always cute :)

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*blushes even more*

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*blushes a lot*

[cornute.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I have that problem too, but this week it's "people who post other people's writing in their LJ, and then take criticism or comments on it *just as if they'd written it themselves.*"

I've decided to refer to it in my mind as "personal transference plagiarism" and it makes me smile enough to not blow up. Maybe you need a snarky term too?

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I have that problem too, but this week it's "people who post other people's writing in their LJ, and then take criticism or comments on it *just as if they'd written it themselves.*"

Oh, *people*. I sigh and shake my head. I used to do that, actually, and in endeavoring to not do so anymore I realized that what I was reacting to was the implication I was seeing that I'd chosen poorly when finding something to quote; once I realized that I could remind myself that the implication was in my eyes only.

Maybe I do need a snarky term. *contemplates snarkage*

[rosefox]

If you use Firefox, you can get a Greasemonkey script that lets you killfile people on LJ. It's done wonders for my blood pressure.

[temima.livejournal.com]

Oh thank you (from someone who has a similar experience w/ FOAFs I don't like much).

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

It depends on which computer I'm using, but I do on one of them. Thanks for the information! *makes note*

Illegitimi non carborundum

[poltr1]

Y'know, it's not your problem that these folks are asshats. Pay 'em no heed. They're dead to you. So don't waste any more time on them and stop giving them any of your power.

Re: Illegitimi non carborundum

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Heh, title.

I feel weird condemning people just because I disagree with them, even if I disagree with them lots and lots and lots, but yeah, I do spend way too much mental energy on those who make me unhappy.

[nsingman.livejournal.com]

A comment in disagreement needn't be a flame, and an argument needn't be a fight. There's nothing wrong with expressing polite disagreement unless the journal's host has specifically requested that readers refrain from doing so.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

This is very true... however, polite disagreement does not, alas, guarantee polite response. Bolstered by this discussion I let myself reply to one of the people who inspired this post, in a discussion in a mutual friend's journal --- and I was polite, honestly I was --- and got a nasty reply, which I fear probably dismayed my friend as much as it did me.

Rargh. *arranges face in hopefully cute expression of disappointment*

[cellio]

There's a Firefox extension that can help here, by hiding their comments from you entirely. I think someone posted about it in lj_nifty a while back (6-12 months). Sorry I can't remember the name.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Knowing it exists is half the battle. :D Thank you for letting me know!

[valkyrwench.livejournal.com]

Oh, yeah. I understand that completely, because I do the same thing.

*hugs*

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Adventures in social relations, I guess. I could just as easily complain about annoying in-person people, too. *laugh at myself* *hugs back*

[dandelion-diva.livejournal.com]

Oh yeah. I generally have a mental conversation with the person, snarking them to Jupiter and back, then carry on as normal. It's fun, releases stress and does no harm.

Yup, I'm good at carrying grudges. It's a family trait...we carry 'em in buckets, with lids on. ;)

Love you.

[jenny_evergreen]

It will be good if we never piss each other off, since I am also with the grudge-keeping on an epic scale. ;)
Love you.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

At least you're both awesome, so hopefully the chances are lowered. :D

[jenny_evergreen]

Awwww. *grin*

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

I wish I could keep my grudges lidded; they tend to ooze!

*huggles you* Did the mask book arrive yet?

[dandelion-diva.livejournal.com]

It did! Sam was thrilled beyond belief. She's still deciding if she wants to dictate a letter that I'll type or write you a postcard. Well, she isn't right now, 'cause she's in bed, but you get my drift. :) Thank you ...it's such a cool book.

Love you.

[kathrynt.livejournal.com]

If anyone is ever being an idiot in my journal, I hereby give you blanket permission to start fights. It might still be bad for YOU, in which case you shouldn't do it, but it won't be bad for ME.

[hitchhiker.livejournal.com]

likewise

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

I will, really. I have, even, and in your journal!

But it helps to have permission. :D

*hugs your knees*

[anahata56.livejournal.com]

I do this all the time (I also suspect that there are some people who do it because of me as well). There are some journals I won't comment in, some threads I won't comment in...just because I'm aware of that.

At the same time, I'm finding that it really doesn't cause me anything more than a moment's exasperation, because I don't comment to "those" comments, ever. Ever ever.

The world does not need me to make it behave itself. ;-) And I certainly don't need the drama that would obviously arise if I said anything--not even "good morning"!

Meh.

In a hundred years, who's gonna care?

The good thing about LJ is that there is always something else to read.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

That is a *gorgeous* icon!

The world does not need me to make it behave itself.

Very true. *reminds self of this*

The good thing about LJ is that there is always something else to read.

And this is true too. :)

[redbird]

You are my friend, in real life as well as in LJ terms. If you feel the need to point out that someone commenting in my journal has said something stupid or ignorant, I will not take offense.

(I trust you're not going to drop in there to say "your mother smells of elderberries and your father was a Volkswagen!")

[redbird]

But if you feel it's better for you not to, that's a different question, and your decision. There are people I don't comment to for similar reasons, and because they might take it as an invitation to further discourse.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*beam* Thank you, not least for trusting me.

I trust you're not going to drop in there to say "your mother smells of elderberries and your father was a Volkswagen!"

I promise I won't, even if I'm really tempted. :D

To answer your other question: acrimonious debates aren't good for *me* either, is part of it. Every so often I just have to say something, but in practice, I usually find I probably should've bitten my lip and gone on. *wry smile*

[jenny_evergreen]

I am very good at not reading. :P (Fortunately, there are only a few fof's that I really can't stand.)

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*emulates your Not-Reading skillz*