Two wise people sent me this. *beams at both*
"Hello! You just used the “damned if you do/don’t” fallacy!" by NK Jemisin.
http://nkjemisin.com/2016/04/hello-you-just-used-the-damned-if-you-dodont-fallacy/Of special note:
Have you ever really paid attention to how anti-bigotry shitstorms work? They don’t start simply because somebody fucked up; they start because the person who fucked up doubled down on it or got defensive rather than listening to the critique being offered.