Navel-gazing OTD

[browngirl]

First of all: *big hugs* to those who sent me encouragement this morning. Thank you, all of you! You rock. *beam*



Let's see how long this gets. I'm typing as fast as I can before I have to do something else.

I dislike being in a bad mood. Not just because, hey, who doesn't want to be happy, but also because my primary goal is to be good for people around me, and grumpiness interferes with that. Grumpiness makes me want to snap at people, it makes me want to cry and need to be taken care of. I don't want to be grumpy. I want to produce emotional resources, not consume them.

So, how to alleviate grumpiness as much as I can? I'm seeing more and more that I need to take better care of myself, which involves bits of being selfish; frex, even though I *want* to go out this weekend and make sure my friends' events have attendees, I probably won't, because I should rest.

It also is going to involve being disciplined. I think I shall need to walk more.

Bleh.

This being a grownup stuff is hard. :)

Comments

Primary Goal

[mama-hogswatch.livejournal.com]

Yeah, being a grown up is hard but it has its compensations. You get to choose whatever you want to choose. That rocks compared to being a kid.

If you don't mind my asking, what made you choose the primary goal of being good for people around you? What do you get out of it. (I am assuming that you are getting something out of it because it would suck to choose a goal that benefits you not).

Re: Primary Goal

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

Oh, I *far* prefer being an adult to being a kid. I like my life now. :)

I chose being good for people as my goal for two main reasons: one, it makes me feel good to be good for others; two, ever since I left Christianity I haven't been sure how to evaluate my worth, and, hey, being good for people helps in that endeavor.

[rysmiel.livejournal.com]

This being a grownup stuff is hard.

Has its benefits though. Wider choice in movies, for one.

And "omphaloskeptic" ? Presumably a quick look in a mirror could resolve that one, not that I have over much doubt about what the answer would be.

[juliansinger.livejournal.com]

It's funny, she says, surfacing from explaining to her Counseling prof how little she knows, how interpretations differ.

I looked at that, and thought that it could be interpreted as selfish to go /out/, since you're only doing what you want, in that case, and detracting from other bits of your life.

Anyways. *hug* Your thoughts engender thoughts of mine. And so goes life.

[anisoptera.livejournal.com]

Don't confuse selfish with self interest. Self interest is taking care of yourself, selfish is wanting all the good stuff for yourself and no one else.

Self interest is healthy.

[maedbh7.livejournal.com]

Yeah, being a grown-up is hard, but you'll do fine. All the ways in which you already are grown up are a strength you can rely on to manage the rest of the work. *hugs* -H...

[badgerthorazine.livejournal.com]

*big hugs* You rock too, dear. and don't you forget it, or I'll be POLITE at ya. ;-D

Grumpy sucks, but not taking care of yourself sucks more. I'm learning that more and more each day.

Walk more? Heh. I should do the same. Maybe we should set up a walking team or something. ;-D