Writer's Block: Love isn't easy

[browngirl]

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Probably it was breaking up with someone by not returning his phonecalls for about a month. I'm still ashamed of having done that.

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[echoinautumn.livejournal.com]

I think everyone is ashamed of something they've done at some point. Perhaps my most immature/embarrassing romance-related thing is hanging up on some poor boy who was in the middle of asking me on a date while I was in high school. (I then turned off my cell phone and never spoke to him again.)

In short: we are all embarrassing ourselves at some point. I hope that one day you can look back and laugh a little at yourself.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*smile* Thanks for reminding me of this. I mean, the question works because everyone does stuff like this sometime, but... I still wish I had acted better by him, and will try to remember so I can do better by people in the future.

[johnpalmer.livejournal.com]

If that's the worst you've ever done, you're probably due a nomination for sainthood. I'll fill out the paperwork.

Okay, yes, I know... it's an awful way to break up with someone. It's nothing to be proud of. But people make mistakes, and learn from them, and people are *really* fucking complicated (apologies for the language, but it's appropriate), yes, even you, or me. Most of the time, when all is said and done, most people do the best they could have, when you've considered all of the circumstances. That doesn't mean they can't try to do better next time, and, yes, *do* better next time - but *next* time, they'll have their memory of how they screwed it up *last* time to help them. Last time, they didn't.

Um. I'm babbling, aren't I?

[rickvs.livejournal.com]

"Good judgment comes from experience. Experience comes from bad judgment."

You weren't babbling; you were clearly delineating your point :>

[amaebi.livejournal.com]

And, you know, so far as I can tell nobody's ever very happy about any way they get the information that one wants to break up with them.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*blush* Thank you. I'm hardly a saint, but... I'm trying to have the world be better for my being in it, and that one seems like kind of a demerit.

OTOH, there are things people have done to me that I've never done to them or anyone, so there is that.

And you made perfect sense. :)

[claudia603.livejournal.com]

I quit an on campus college job once by doing that. I shit you not. I stopped going and ignored all calls from the boss and I never resolved it ever. So embarrassing.

[browngirl.livejournal.com]

*giggle* Ah, college campus jobs.

[fitfool.livejournal.com]

I heard one story on the radio about a guy who was deeply ashamed about having abandoned a friend in need when he was a little kid. It was scary and he was just a kid...no one would've blamed him. But the interesting thing is that he grew up to be a fiercely loyal friend -- the kind of friend that you just know you can count on no matter what. His deep regret over how he acted as a kid makes him avoid every doing anything that will make him feel that bad about himself again. So some good came of it anyhow.