Sweetheart, I'm going to get all shrinky at you for a minute.
You're a very giving person, and the impression I've always gotten is that although you're a genuinely nice and kind person, you give so much because you're not sure that you're worthy of being loved, without the giving.
If I were your therapist, I'd ask you to make baked goods only for yourself (and maybe for birthdays for CLOSE friends) for some amount of time -- six months, maybe -- and notice that people still seem happy to have you around. Are you are still welcome everywhere you go, are you still greeted enthusiastically, and so on? I bet you are.
Giving is a fine and beautiful thing, and everyone should do it. Giving until it hurts, or giving because you're not sure that you're worth knowing without it -- that's a totally different animal. That kind of giving is bad for you.
You ARE worthy, just as you are. People DO want to know you, just as you are. You don't need to bribe us to love you; we'll do that just because you're you.
(I apologize if this is inappropriately shrinky or if it's already been said -- I didn't read all 36 comments.)
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Date: 2009-09-14 07:48 pm (UTC)You're a very giving person, and the impression I've always gotten is that although you're a genuinely nice and kind person, you give so much because you're not sure that you're worthy of being loved, without the giving.
If I were your therapist, I'd ask you to make baked goods only for yourself (and maybe for birthdays for CLOSE friends) for some amount of time -- six months, maybe -- and notice that people still seem happy to have you around. Are you are still welcome everywhere you go, are you still greeted enthusiastically, and so on? I bet you are.
Giving is a fine and beautiful thing, and everyone should do it. Giving until it hurts, or giving because you're not sure that you're worth knowing without it -- that's a totally different animal. That kind of giving is bad for you.
You ARE worthy, just as you are. People DO want to know you, just as you are. You don't need to bribe us to love you; we'll do that just because you're you.
(I apologize if this is inappropriately shrinky or if it's already been said -- I didn't read all 36 comments.)
*hug*