Dysfunctional Families Day
Jan. 2nd, 2009 02:51 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
browngirlYou are all fired.
Well, no, not really, of course. But how come no one told me about Dysfunctional Families Day?! OTOH, it's probably a good idea I didn't read this discussion when it was current, since when that tripy little "family uber alles" enabler-of-abusers showed up in comment #9 I would have come out swinging at him. Just rereading, months later, I yelled at my computer and alarmed my roommate.
Today's my birthday. I may call my mom to thank her for it, but I also may not, depending on how I think the conversation may go; my life is mine now, and those who know my story know what I mean by that.
Well, no, not really, of course. But how come no one told me about Dysfunctional Families Day?! OTOH, it's probably a good idea I didn't read this discussion when it was current, since when that tripy little "family uber alles" enabler-of-abusers showed up in comment #9 I would have come out swinging at him. Just rereading, months later, I yelled at my computer and alarmed my roommate.
Today's my birthday. I may call my mom to thank her for it, but I also may not, depending on how I think the conversation may go; my life is mine now, and those who know my story know what I mean by that.
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Date: 2009-01-03 01:10 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2009-01-08 12:44 am (UTC)But seriously... I can so see him returning a child to their abusive parents, telling a teenager they're just being adolescent when they try to report abuse, telling off an adult for 'disrespecting' their parents. I didn't call him an enabler lightly.
And there's... There is a particular arrogance people always wear when they enter a safe space for a certain group of people and tell those people You Are All Wrong. I've seen it from people coming into women's safe spaces, queerspace, spaces for people of color, spaces for nonChristian people and nonreligious people, all to tell us, as Someone From The Majority, just how wrong we are. It's the same damn arrogance, and it dripped off him, it really did.