Another Paired Signal Boost: "Enough With The Aspie Bit Already"

[browngirl]

You know how people often bring up Asperger's Disorder as a reason/excuse that someone may have done something wrong? Here are two essays by the mothers of people with Asperger's, explaining the multiple reasons why doing so is wrong.

As the mother of an Asperger child by msagara and Enough with the Aspie bit already by rose_lemberg.

Comments

[bikergeek.livejournal.com]

I'm not going to self-diagnose as Aspie, but I will note that I am pretty socially clueless. (If I look like I'm not that way to others, it's because I've been evolving coping mechanisms for decades, and they mostly work to keep me out of trouble.) Even so, I know what the word "No" means. This guy has no excuses and people should stop making excuses for him.

If you don't know what the words "No" and "Stop" mean, then you're not fit to be out in society.

[sethg]

To the extent that creepy-stalkery behavior involves seeking out people who are less likely to complain, and victimizing them in environments where the offender is less likely to suffer consequences... that behavior requires having at least neurotypical levels of social skills, no? I mean, The Guy In Question didn’t direct his attention to a uniformed policewoman walking the beat, or to a married woman in the presence of her pro-wrestler husband.

[thistlerose.livejournal.com]

One of my housemates' kids has Asperberg's. He's eight, and he gets it when someone tells him STOP. He understands boundaries. Okay, sometimes he'll try to push them, but he is, as I said, eight. I never knew much about Asperberg's until I met this kid, but now that I know and love him, I get so annoyed when I see people, both in real life and fiction, blaming their bad behavior on Asperberger's.

[beetiger.livejournal.com]

Thank you. My eight-year-old son has Asperger's, and we work a lot on the "how to know when someone would not like you to be there" thing. He doesn't always get subtle cues -- "don't you have something to do at *your* house" often fails to work -- but "Please, I would like you to leave now" always does.

[shelleybear.livejournal.com]

Posts that begin:

My aspie daughter....

[icecreamempress.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the signal boost on these!

[juliansinger.livejournal.com]

Thank you /so/ much for signal boosting these. Because geeeeez.