browngirl: (Liberty/Justice)
browngirl ([personal profile] browngirl) wrote2011-01-22 10:50 am

A Post, A Response, and a Resource.

So [livejournal.com profile] _dahne_'s post calling for an end to social justice in fandom is being much discussed. I took down my post from yesterday, which was more emotional and disorganized than I like, and instead of rewriting it I'll link to this response at [livejournal.com profile] foc_u.

Also, [livejournal.com profile] brighteyed_jill has linked to the sensible post, On Having That Conversation. This is the post that [livejournal.com profile] _dahne_ purports to have written, but hers is very much not.

Now, having said all that, I'm going to go work on a story for my next post here.

[identity profile] rabidsamfan.livejournal.com 2011-01-22 06:00 pm (UTC)(link)
I did try to respond to dahne, but I probably used too many words. Her entire whine struck me as "I don't wanna read about this again!" and I got distracted by elucidating why I think the conversations she's tired of keep appearing over and over.

What I probably should have said was "If you're not interested then use the power of the back button and go away. Other people ARE interested and can survive having a discussion without you."

[identity profile] rubynye.livejournal.com 2011-01-23 03:55 am (UTC)(link)
Yeah, I probably should have said that too. I mean, beyond all the moral, ethical, and socipolitical considerations... no one's holding a gun to her head and making her read these discussions. The only reason to object is if the whole concept of having them is wrong, and I believe that it isn't.
Edited 2011-01-23 03:58 (UTC)

[identity profile] rabidsamfan.livejournal.com 2011-01-23 04:10 am (UTC)(link)
Yup. When I'm too exhausted to take on any discussion that I know is likely to turn into an argument, I just skip over reading those kinds of discussions for a while. Be they real life matters or just fannish matters -- exhaustion is exhaustion and some days my prescription for myself is to skip the stress until I have more energy and coherence. She could do that too if she'd just think for a minute. It's not like the discussion won't happen for other people who *do* need to have it, or learn from it.

(And boy, did my stomach thank me for realizing I could give myself permission to not stress about everything all at the same time without ever stopping to do something else for a while.)

*hugs* I hope you're going to do something unstressful tonight, m'dear. I'm going to try to actually finish a WIP. Go ahead, laugh. But it's worth trying, right?