And what got left out of that comment, though it was meant to be the second paragraph, is a discussion I had with a male lover, who said that he couldn't (and didn't particularly want to) separate his attraction to me into components, one or more of which would be physical attributes and the others of which would be personality.

There is a world of difference between, say, cattitude watching me happily while I stretch, which I sometimes do naked, and someone ogling a stranger on the street and making sure she (or he) is aware of that.