Sorry, don't like the tomatonation one. Have known too many people who do _not_ think men & women are or should be equal. Or who think that they're so different that "equal" means "given different rights." For example, they think that society should in some way be set up to make it easier for women than for men to stay home w/ small children. They are quite willing to sacrifice equal pay for the sexes if necessary to effect this rule. I don't agree, but there really are some people who are not even dictionary feminists.

Also, so what? Most of us are dictionary feminists, yes. And semantic precision is always nicer than stupid namecalling ("you, you . . . homo sapiens, you!") but changing the word doesn't really change the fights.

But I do appreciate the need to say it now and then. I recall a fellow student at law school telling me with great seriousness that she wasn't a feminist. I looked at her with immense derision and said "dear, what are you doing HERE?"